*J.a.n.i.c.e* wants to be loVed

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

2nd day of the last week in school...
time indeed flies...
4 hours of break so after brunch went to library to slack... played 'dai dee' with daryl, j.l, omar... as we were playing came across a mag: teens.. this topic just caught my attention and make me wanna read more... its on RELATIONSHIP... in this column, it talks about finding your partner and what should you consider when you're looking for your other half..

here goes the PARTNER CHECKLIST:
1. Shared Interests
think about this - why are you friends with your best pals?? Is having a common interest one of the reasons?? (well, me n my friends are best pals mayb because we can clique together bah...) well, it's the same when you're looking for a bf or gf. imagine having to spend hours n hours together with someone whome you didn't have a word to say to, because there were just no common topics to bring up. that's not something that you'd like to happen when you're with your bf or gf, is it?? (of cos, no one would wants that to happen) that makes it important for the both of you to have the same kind of common interest. this could be a sport, a computer game, or a genre of music. (god, none of the above is what i have... except for music... ha) another advantage to having a common interest is that the both of you could develope this interest together. it's always more fun to do stuff when you have company, and all the better if your companion is someone you like and enjoy being with. (who the hell would wanna do something with someone they dont lik unless under certain circumstances)

2. The Right Motives
when you're deciding on whether to go out with someone, it's best to make sure the person's feelings are true, and that you reciprocate his or her feelings. many times, people choose to find partners because they're lonely, or they want to fit in with a crowd. (reading this sentence makes me do some thinking.) this is obviously not the best foundation to build a relationship on. so before you decide on whether to go out with you suitor, or before you confess your feelings to the guy or gal of your choice, search yourself to make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. (i think its really right cos if not the other party or even both parties will be hurt.)

3. Same Wavelength
being on the same wavelength is another impt thing in finding a girl or boyfriend, esp in the issues that you have strong feelings about. let's say you don't believe in pre-martial sex but your bf thinks that there's nothin wrong with it. this could result in huge arguements between the both of you, which might or might not be worth it. (hmmm... ) it's great if you manage to stand your ground and the both of you are willing to accept and live with the differences of opinions. but when whatever you disagree on becomes a constant point of contention between the two of you, or when you end up giving in and doing something that you regret, your relationship can get very tiring.
but of course, dont expect to find a partner who agress with you on everthing and anything. (if there is sure person on earth i think everybody will be grabbing for it) having someone who only says "Yes" and "i agree" to you might just put you to sleep. just make sure whatever you disagree on doesnt become the stumbling block of your relationship.

4. Complementing Personality
before you decide whether or not to get together with someone, take a look at their personality and how they react to circumstances and situations around them. your other half doesnt have to have the exact same personality traits as you do. imagine what kind of dangerous sparks might fly if you have. its more important, in this case, to have someone whose personality complements yours. (question mark question mark). e.g. if you're the rash and temperamental type of person, you need someone with the patience to handle your temper - if you're lucky, your partner might even be able to help you become more patient, and learn to see things in a different way. (so is it trying to say if i m a talkative person i should find someone who is not so talkative???)

5. Making a Decision
after looking at all the factors above, it will be easier to make an informed decision about whether ir not you should accept your suitor or approach your crush. (easier?? sometimes i really wonder whether mag give de tips true or not.. there are certain things which say is easy but when do its hard lor) but no matter how much you have thought about it, or how well you think you and your other half match, there is still a chance that it might not work out. there are no gurantees in relationships because, after all, you are dealing with human beings. (are human beings really that hard to handle??) but remember that even when your carefully planned relationship doesnt work out, it's not the end of the world. each relationship is like a study unit in school, where you learn more about yourself and what you actually expect from a relationship, and nore what you thought you needed. this way, you''ll be able to make a more informed decision when you're deciding on whether to emback on your next relationship.

after reading this mag, really make me did some thinking... but sometimes you will wonder whether wat stated in the mag is trustable or not... cos it lik even perfect match ppl also can get spearated... but at least it make u do some thinking... but love can be very complicating... (thanz to j.l that i m able to blog this post cos she lend me this mag.. =>)

anway, its such a complicating day... certain things happen but just dont know how to handle it.. you see it with your eyes, you cant deny it... ppl around you saw it... they ask me lots of questions that i dont know how to ans... i thought that i would be alright but i nv know that few drops of tears actually fall down my cheeks... i controlled back cos i dont wanna let my frens worry bout me... they were just feeling not worth for me... but there are things tat we just see by the cover... it might not be as what we think... but human nature anybody would think out of the box.. i just kept in silence... no matter what wanna just thanz my frens... thanz for i know you people care for me... work as usual... but just not so well... i miss my 'mummy'...

s***e***g in silence

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